It’s one thing to see someone when they are sedated. It’s quite another to see the sedation taking effect, and the person who doesn’t wish to be sedated trying to fight it off.
Against my wishes and against her will, my mom was sedated with quetiapine at breakfast every day for almost four years. The dose she was given knocked her out cold for several hours. She got another debilitating dose in the evening. They also gave her risperidone twice each day. This drug regimen was an abuse of her human rights.
I had incontrovertible proof that non-pharmacological strategies improved the quality of Mom’s life, and, should they have been fully implemented would have eliminated the “need” to inappropriately sedate her with quetiapine and risperidone. I repeatedly voiced my concerns and shared my evidence. I was ignored, and branded a troublemaker.
It took 45 minutes to an hour for the quetiapine to take full effect. Sometimes, during that window, I would pick Mom up at her Dementia Jail and take her to my house so that when she woke up three or four hours later, we could spend some quality time together.
This is what Mom’s experience looked like during the last five minutes or so before she fell “asleep:”
My mother, who lived with dementia, was chemically and physically restrained every day for the forty-five months she lived in a dementia jail (aka a long-term care facility or nursing home).
These restraints could have been avoided if the medical personnel in charge of her care had addressed the root causes of the behaviours they found challenging in her. All they needed to do was to take a closer look at what was going on around Mom. If I could do it, surely they should have been able to.
When Mom was sedated, she was unable to do things she loved to do such as walking and singing. Here she is not singing (because she had been sedated an hour or so before), at some of the weekly sing-alongs conducted by volunteers at the place she resided:
Besides cruelly sedating her with antipsychotic drugs, no one who was involved with my mother’s care listened to my request to provide her with music therapy. So I hired a music therapist myself and the three of us enjoyed many happy afternoons together after the worst sedative effects of the chemical restraints had worn off. Here’s an example of one of those wonderful sessions:
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My mom was a go-getter, she loved to be on the move. Even when she had been living with advancing Alzheimer disease for several years, she told me clearly and directly that she wanted to “keep going.” That was her way. She didn’t want to be sitting and sleeping and missing out on living.
Sadly, Mom didn’t get to live the life she wanted in the end.
When she was moved into a Dementia Jail (aka “nursing home” or “long-term care facility”) in November 2012, her “get up and go” behaviour and her feistiness were challenging for the staff. Instead of finding ways to make the most of her energy, the medical personnel in charge of her care inappropriately prescribed increasing amounts of antipsychotic drugs to chemically restrain her. The drugs caused her to become unsteady on her feet and she started to fall. Instead of reducing the drugs to prevent the falls, they physically restrained her.
If that wasn’t bad enough, her basic care and hygiene needs were often not met. When I went to visit her, which was virtually ever day for four years, the first thing I did was to take her to the bathroom, where, more frequently than not, I would find that her incontinence brief needed to be changed, so I would change it myself.
Here are twenty-five pictures I took during 2013 as I gathered evidence to prove the neglect and abuse I witnessed every day:
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Six years — almost to the day — after the Director of “Care” at the #DementiaJail in which Mom resided stood up in court and lied about the way my mother was being treated under her supervision. Now, I’m preparing a complaint to lodge against the DoC with the Quebec Order of Nurses. Part of preparing the complaint involves going over all the videos, audios, images and notes I made to document the neglect and abuse my mother was subjected to for four years until she died on August 17, 2016.
This video shows Mom’s condition on December 1, 2013, after I had asked the charge nurse not to give my mother a morning dose of antipsychotics because she could barely walk. My request was denied. I took Mom to my house where she slept sedated in a chair for several hours before waking up and again experiencing great difficult walking. I called it the Seroquel shuffle.
No one with a modicum of common sense would have given my mother antipsychotic medication in the condition she was in before breakfast that day, which was essentially the same condition she was in when she woke up in the afternoon at my home. The debilitating effects of the drugs were shocking; they are documented in the video below.
Six years later, it still makes my blood boil.
To add insult to injury, I was branded a troublemaker for advocating on my mother’s behalf, and for the last eighteen months of her life the time I was allowed to spend with her each day was restricted.
I believe what goes around comes around. The abuse and neglect will all be fully revealed one day.
I should have known better than to invite my photographer friend Edith to do a day-in-the-life photoshoot of Mom and I on a Friday.
I had intended for Edith to capture in images the wonderful time Mom had when I brought her to my place for lunch or dinner. I wanted to show how well she was able to function, how she helped me make lunch, how close we were, how capable she was, and how much we enjoyed spending time together.
But Friday was bath day. That meant Mom was more likely to be even more drugged than usual. Why? Because she “resisted” being undressed and put in the noisy whirlpool bath with a sling-like lift that must have frightened her. Sometimes she resisted “violently,” just as 98 per cent of “normal” people would under similar circumstances (per my Short Survey on Behaviour). Adding fuel to the fire was Betsy,* the nurse who gave the baths; she was as mean as a junkyard dog. I don’t recall ever seeing her smile during my four years of daily visits to Mom’s dementia jail. On several occasions, she mocked Mom right in front of me; in one instance making fun of the fact that Mom had to pull herself along with her feet in the wheelchair to which she eventually became confined. Mom wasn’t the only resident I witnessed being subjected to Betsy’s abuse, and one of the care workers confided in me that she would sooner send her mother to hell than place her in a home that Betsy worked in.
Betsy was close to six feet tall, and solid. Real solid. They called her “the sergeant major.” Mom, on the other hand, was five foot two, osteoporosis having shrunk her a couple of inches in the previous decade. She was in her mid-eighties, living with dementia, and sedated with antipsychotic drugs because some of the staff–the ones who failed to engage her in ways that worked for her–found her challenging.
Mom’s bath time aggression was carefully recorded in the nurses’ notes I got copies of when I launched a legal bid to get control of her care in August 2013.
On April 12, 2013, for example, Betsy wrote:
Then a week later:
Hmmmm. So it wasn’t okay for Mom to call out for help when she felt threatened, and under attack, but it was perfectly fine for Betsy to do so?
I know Mom’s reactions could have been prevented with the right approach; I know it with one hundred per cent certainty. But Betsy either didn’t know the right approach, didn’t have time to use it or didn’t want to use it. Caroline or I helped Mom shower every morning for more than a year, and Mom never hit, slapped, kicked or pinched either of us. Ever. Sometimes she was slightly reluctant, saying she didn’t need a shower (for example), but we always managed to convince her, and the process always unfolded without incident. In fact, mostly it was a pleasant experience for her and for us. But Betsy didn’t use the right approach, and everything went pear shaped as a result.
Of course Mom and dementia were blamed for the “bad bath time behaviour,” and when things got really out of control, they gave her an extra dose of whatever to subdue her. That’s why and how she ended up like this on that failed photoshoot Friday in 2014:
This video of my catatonic mom haunts me. I can’t imagine anyone watching it without being shocked, even horrified. It reminds me of the final scenes of One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest in which Jack Nicholson’s “troublemaker” character Randle McMurphy is made vegetative after being lobotomized. I remember crying when, out of love and compassion, McMurphy’s big native friend (Chief) kills him by smothering him with a pillow. I never dreamed I would one day see the same vacant look in my mother’s eyes.
“It was a barbarous procedure with catastrophic consequences, and yet it was once widely accepted and even earned a Portuguese doctor a Nobel Prize. In the annals of medical history, it stands out as one of medicine’s biggest mistakes and an example of how disastrously things can go wrong when a treatment is put into widespread use before it has been adequately tested.”
Maybe one day we will also stop giving antipsychotic drugs to people living with dementia for the same undeniable reasons, and they won’t be tortured and abused like my mother was for the last four years of her life.
Many of the comments people make on my posts, and the stories they send me by email and snail mail break me heart. Some literally bring me to tears. This is one of them – a comment CL made when I posted “an open letter to the dementia community worldwide” on the MAS Facebook page:
“When my father was in the hospital for a stroke, a gentleman used to show up every day. He was an older patient, and he used to tell my dad great stories and jokes from his younger years. My dad thoroughly enjoyed these daily visits.
One day my dad asked me to check on “Robbie” because he hadn’t seen him in a couple of days. So I checked with the nursing staff and they said he was moved to a different ward. So I went to look for him. I found him restrained in a chair, in a zombie daze and drooling. It was heartbreaking!
When I questioned the nurses, they said someone complained about him walking around talking to other patients, so they did this horrifying drugging and restraining!. I cried. Then I told my dad he had died. I couldn’t tell him the truth. It was awful!.
P.S. Robbie never hurt or touched anyone. He just stood at the bottom of the bed and talked. Still haunts me to this day. Five years now.”
The very same thing happened to my gregarious and fun-loving mom: she was physically and chemically restrained for being friendly and sociable. Just the thought of it still makes me cry. Imagine the state of poor “Robbie,” who had brought others joy with his “wandering,” if his friend’s daughter felt it was better to tell her father Robbie was dead rather than tell him the truth of what had happened. Better to say he was dead. Think about that.
I believe it’s a crime to do this to vulnerable people, and in particular to vulnerable elderly. We must stop it. And we must #BanBPSD.
This Stephen Colbert bit is about the opioid crisis. But it could equally be about the polypharmacy crisis in older adults. Or the antipsychotic and psychotropic crisis in long-term care facilities. It’s all one and the same issue. #BIGpharma #bigMONEY
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As part of the campaign, fellow human rights and dementia care advocate Kate Swaffer penned “Rethinking Dementia: Normal Human Responses,” an excellent post wherein she lists fourteen simple examples of why we should #BanBPSD. Here are five from Kate’s list of 14 [I’ve added bits here and there, which I have enclosed in square brackets]:
Labeling and medicalising normal human responses to being segregated [and isolated] is wrong; it is also a breach of our most basic human right under the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (CRPD).
Labeling and medicalising normal human responses to being forced to live in an institution is wrong; we know institutional care ensures poor care, and [given the] choice, almost no one wants to live in [an institution].
19 ) Labeling, medicalising and punishing an individual’s normal human responses to cruel, abusive, harmful and wrongful treatment by physically restraining them is abuse.
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Many of the comments people make on my posts, and the stories they send me by email and snail mail break me heart. Some literally bring me to tears. This is one of them – a comment CL made when I posted “
My Alzheimer's Story 