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sue clarke says: they locked up my mom

I posted “hidden restraints: hidden abuse” on Facebook with this lead in: “Physical restraints aren’t always as obvious as safety belts and prison bars. I still get upset when I watch these videos; I just feel this is so wrong. On the other hand, I’m grateful I was there to liberate my mom each day, even if it was only for a few hours.”

The post was shared dozens of times and generated many comments, but this one from Sue Clarke, which I have reproduced here exactly as she wrote it, touched my heart; she said:

“My mom. Had got. Alzheimers. And demture. And the car Home. Would lock her in her room. When she. Started. To shout and lash out. We been few times. Me and my auntie. Dad. Used to get up set. We had to find a. Carerer. To unlock the. Door with. A key It’s so sad for the family. And god knows what these poor. Lady. Family feel. I’m so glad. Mom and dad. Have. Passed away. Together. Gone to a better place. Xxx”

Sue Clarke’s comment felt to me like a raw piece of poetry, just like being the care partner to someone living with Alzheimer disease can sometimes be like an experiential life poem that is at once beautiful and tragic.

You said it!” is a place to discover informed comments, inspiring thoughts, short stories, good ideas, provocative opinions, quotable quotes and noteworthy snippets from across my worldwide network. 


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