November 11, 2011: “Punkie?” Mom doesn’t wake me when she calls out. A woodpecker beat her to it an hour ago. I get up, put something on, pad across the hall. It’s November 11, 2011; I’ve been back 11 days.
“Are you okay Mom?” I say from her bedroom door.
“Yeah, but I want to get going, or do something, I’m getting sort of tired,” she says.
“Uh huh,” I agree.
“What about you?” She’s worried, anxious, confused.
“I’m okay,” I lie.
“It’s so dark, and I don’t seem to know where I am,” she says as I crawl into bed with her.
“Well, you’re in your house.” I try to make her feel safe amidst the confusion.
“I know, but it doesn’t seem to be bright out or anything.” She doesn’t understand. Not understanding is scary. So is the darkness.
“Because it’s nighttime,” I say.
She considers this. “Anyway, I…. Anyway…” She searches for something to hang on to. Her world is upside down. It’s dark outside when it should be bright and sunny. She doesn’t know where she is. She wants to do something, but has no idea what. She’s afraid. I would be afraid to, if I were her. I remain calm. So far I’m still able to.
“Do you think you can go back to sleep?” I ask.
“I don’t know, I’ll try.” She will. Give her a few minutes.
“Do you want me to get you some milk or something?” A stab at being helpful.
“No, no…I’ll just…I’ll just wait…I don’t know what we’re going to do.” She looks up at the ceiling, the back of her left hand lying against her forehead, palm up, fingers slight curled. Her right hand clutches the duvet. I don’t know what we’re going to do either.
“I can’t sleep too well you know,” she says in a whisper. That’s one of the reasons I came back to live with her. She’s been up several times every night since, and I’ve begun to suffer the ill effects of too little rest.
“Did you sleep?” She checks in with me.
“Yeah, except there’s a woodpecker outside.” I try to take us somewhere real and concrete that’s also not dark and scary, and then I half laugh at the irony of a bird keeping me awake.
“What’s he doing?” Her fear evaporates for a moment.
“He’s tapping on the tree. Tap tap tap tap tap. And then he stops. Maybe that’s what woke you up Mom,” I posit. “The woodpecker tapping.”
“I don’t know,” she says.“Where is he? In this area?”
“Over by my room, in a tree.”
“Maybe you’d better stay in here,” she suggests. She’s not concerned about the woodpecker keeping me awake. She’s nervous when she’s alone. Never used to be though; lived in this big red brick house with a cat or two for close to forty years. “It’s hard to know what time it is or anything.”
“It’s almost 6 o’clock in the morning,” I say.
“It should be lighter. It should be brighter out, don’t you think?”
“It must be cloudy. That’s why it’s dark outside. It’s dark outside, because it’s cloudy.” I repeat in reverse for good measure. “Because you’re right, it should be lighter.”
“I would think so.”
“It’s because it’s cloudy.” I repeat again, hoping it might stick. It doesn’t.
“It’s pitch black outside. I don’t know why it’s so dark.” Her mind mirrors the state of the pre-dawn sky.
“I put some night lights in here so you could see better. But they don’t shine outside.”
A few moments of silence.
“It seems as though we’ve been in bed for a long time,” she ventures.
“Does it?” I query.
“That’s the way I feel. I don’t know why it’s so black out. Why is it like that?”
“It could be because it’s cloudy today, and it’s early in the morning. It’s not even 6 o’clock yet. Do you want me to turn a light on?” I ask.
“No. I’ve got the light here.” She motions to her left. The table lamp my brother gave my ex-husband and I as a wedding present sits on an antique pine table. The shade is creamy white and decorated with tiny cutouts; the bottom is fashioned from an old glass oil lamp. It’s half full of dried potpourri: red, mauve and pink petals. The light is off.
“Do you think you can go back to sleep Mom?”
“Well, I’m gonna try. I’ve gotta’ do something.”
“Okay. I’m going downstairs to do some work.”
“Oh shucks,” she says, the worry has crept back in, like the dawn soon will to the day.
“It’s time for me to get up.” I yawn. “If you need anything, just call me, okay Mom?”
“Okay dear. Or I’ll go downstairs or something. I don’t know what’s the matter around here. Anyway, I’ll try to sleep a bit. I don’t know how you can do anything when it’s so dark,” she says as she pulls the duvet up to her chin, eyes wide open.
I leave her alone in bed, and head downstairs to the den, which is underneath her room. I’ll hear the floorboards creak if she gets up. With any luck she’ll fall back to sleep for a couple of hours, and I’ll have some time to myself before she awakens for good.
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