UK dementia care pioneer David Sheard talks about two stark choices that each of us who loves someone who lives with dementia must make at some point in the journey – maybe even multiple times every day. Both choices, both paths, are painful. But one of the two creates the possibility for love, compassion, joy, and growth, while the other inevitably leads to regret, sorrow, despair and loss.
In the video below, Sheard speaks in reference to family and friends visiting loved ones who live with dementia in long-term care. But I think his wisdom applies equally to those who are primary care partners and living with their loved ones on a full or part-time basis in their homes or in the community.
Of the dozens of videos I’ve watched on dementia care, this is the one that I think is perhaps the most important of all in fundamentally changing the way we approach co-creating and maintaining loving and productive relationships with those whom we love one who live with dementia. It underlies everything else. I invite you to watch and share. Thank you.
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