Former teacher turned author Jean Lee highlights great books for care partners – read on!
Caregivers. We are all caregivers. As humans we care for one another, or we should. Most especially, we care for those close to us.
- As a youth I loved and respected my parents, a form of caring for them in my child-like way.
- As a young wife and mom, I cared for my husband and children.
- As a teacher, I cared for my students.
But the logical timeline of maturation, love, and respect tipped topsy-turvy when my parents reached their eighties. They slowly began to lose their minds and act irrationally. I became concerned for their safety. I sought out medical treatment, and they were both diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease on the same day.
Over the next decade I became the parent to my parents. I gradually, painfully made decisions they opposed in order to protect their well-being. In the process, I felt guilty taking everything away from the people who had given me everything.
As I struggled to keep the pieces of my life together––my marriage, my own family, my career and the care of my parents––I grasped for resources, but found few. I am a positive person, therefore I sought uplifting resources, but much of what I read was written with a negative undertone.
I found books about the ill treatment of a caregiver by an unreasonable loved one, about adult siblings who fought, and about children who had grown up with angst toward a parent continuing through caregiving years.
Even so, every time I found a kernel of truth, I felt as though I could keep going, someone else was brave enough to share this upside down world as well.
I realized sharing my story might help others. Alzheimer’s Daughter details my journey caring for both parents who were diagnosed on the same day.
It is written with wincing honesty about the cruel affects of the disease, but a WWII love story held together by faith and family is contained within the pages.
Over the past several months, four other authors from across the country and I have crossed paths, all of us affected in some way by Alzheimer’s disease/dementia.
For the month of November, the five of us have joined together in recognition of National Caregiver Appreciation Month and National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month to recognize those unsung heroes, family caregivers.
From each other we learned that all of us felt compelled to write our books, hoping to make a difference…hoping that we might make the pathway of others traveling this road a little less painful and lonely.
Perhaps you will find comfort and support within our pages.
Somebody Stole My Iron by Vicki Tapia details the daily challenges, turbulent emotions, and painful decisions involved in caring for her parents.
Laced with humor and pathos, reviewers describe her book as “brave,” “honest,” “raw,” “unvarnished,” as well as a “must-read for every Alzheimer’s/dementia patient’s family.”
Vicki wrote this story to offer hope to others, to reassure them that they’re not alone.
Blue Hydrangeas: an Alzheimer’s love story by Marianne Sciucco is a work of fiction.
Marianne Sciucco describes herself as a writer who happens to be a nurse. This work is based on her care for the elderly.
It’s a tenderly told love story about Jack and Sara, owners of a New England bed and breakfast.
Sara is stricken with Alzheimer’s and Jack becomes her caregiver.
What Flowers Remember by Shannon Wiersbitzky is also a work of fiction.
Wiersbitzky writes through the eyes of a small-town pre-teen girl, Delia, whose elderly neighbour, Old Red Clancy is failing mentally.
The aged gentleman has to be placed in a care facility, but Delia will not let him wither away. She devises a way for the whole community to remind Old Red how important he has been in all of their lives.
On Pluto by Greg O’Brien is a personal memoir.
Diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s, Greg O’Brien’s story isn’t about losing someone else to Alzheimer’s, it is about losing himself a sliver at a time while still fighting to live with Alzheimer’s, not die with it.
Jean Lee wrote lesson plans for 22 years as an elementary school teacher. She had no aspirations to write a book, but when both her parents were diagnosed on the same day with Alzheimer’s disease, her journey as their caregiver poured out on paper through her memoir, Alzheimer’s Daughter. After the sadness of her parents decline, life brought her a joy–triplet grandchildren. She is currently working on a series of books for ages 9-12 entitled Lexi’s Triplets, written through the voice of the family mutt.
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