Flashback September 26, 2014: I write and share my experiences to give purpose to this Alzheimer’s journey of Mom’s and mine. There must be a reason (I reason) for our struggle and suffering. Perhaps you are part of the purpose! I hope My Alzheimer’s Story captivates, inspires and/or comforts you. If it does, please share the love like I am 🙂
In March 2014, I spoke about My Alzheimer’s Story with Quebec AM, CBC Radio One and on-air host Susan Campbell on location at Lennoxville Elementary School. The interview is here. Campbell began following the blog and recently asked me to do a follow-up segment. We did the second interview the day before Mom’s 86th birthday. As we chatted, Campbell asked me about some of the special times I’ve had with Mom, in particular an exchange of “I love you’s” I captured in video in “the most important thing to do when you hit a rust patch.”
I told her the truth: those moments crack me open. Yet through them I’ve experienced a lot of healing. My hurts, disappointments, resentments and negative feelings have been washed away leaving behind a bundle of tenderness, intimacy and beauty in the relationship with my Mom. Getting there hasn’t been easy, but it’s been worth it.
At the end of the interview, which you may listen to here, I read an abbreviated version of “a daughter’s prayer to god,” a poem I wrote when Mom was very sick in May. I managed not to cry the whole way through as I did when I read it aloud for the first time. Several friends who had read the poem told me how powerful it was to hear it spoken. Campbell said her producer Alex, a bear of a man whom I had met at our initial on-location interview in March, had been moved to tears by it.
I’m so pleased people are being touched by our story (see purpose above). In a couple of weeks I’m “guesting” at a half-day college class; I intend to share and discuss some of the audio and video clips from the year I cared for Mom in her own home. I wonder how the students will respond? Will they react like Alex did? Will they feel the joys and sorrows?
Maybe all of us will crack wide open. Maybe that would be a good thing.